AI co-parenting coach · iPhone
Calm the next
message
Message Shield, Tone Guardian, rewrites, and decree-aware answers—so you can stay focused on the kids, not the fight.
Free trial · 7 days or 20 messages · You send every message
Tools built for hard co-parenting moments
Named tools in the app—not generic chat. Paste a message, get a calmer next step, copy it into the apps you already use.
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Incoming
Message Shield
Paste a hard message from your co-parent. Get a toxicity read, what to ignore, and a calm BIFF-style reply—without taking the bait.
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Before you send
Tone Guardian
Paste your draft. Flag the heat and get a cooler, child-focused version. You stay in control—we never message anyone for you.
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Your order
Decree-aware answers
Ask about holidays, support, or possession. Answers can cite excerpts from your decree—and open that page on your device.
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Rewrite
Screenshot or paste
Attach the real message or type what you need. Get a brief, firm, civil draft ready to copy into text, email, or a court messaging app.
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Boundaries
Raise an issue calmly
Facts, one clear ask, child-focused tone—so logistics don’t turn into another fight.
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Private
Journal
Process exchanges and tough moments with emotion tags and notes. For you—not a shared log.
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How it works
Three steps from heat to a message you’re willing to send.
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Paste or attach the real message
Incoming text, your draft, or a screenshot—specificity beats vague “help me communicate.”
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Shield, Tone, or rewrite
Rate the heat with Message Shield, calm your draft with Tone Guardian, or get a child-first reply. Optional decree context when you’ve added your order.
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You send it
Copy into Messages, email, or a court co-parenting app. We never message your co-parent for you.
Gentler Coparent
You never stick to the plan. I’m done dealing with last-minute changes.
I’m sick of this. You’re impossible to co-parent with and the kids know it.
Let’s stick to the written schedule. If you need a change for Friday, send two options by Thursday noon so we can plan for the kids.
Same logistics. Less heat.
Write here. Send there—text, email, or your court messaging app. You’re always in control.
Message Shield →Tone Guardian →
High-conflict message guide →
Text message templates →
BIFF co-parenting messages →
Texas SPO-style texts →
Built for high-conflict co-parenting
Not a shared inbox. Not a generic chatbot. A calmer coach when tension is high.
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Coach layer, not a portal
We help you write. Court co-parenting apps store the record. Use both if you need both.
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Your decree, on your device
When you add your order, answers can cite it—and open the PDF page. Decree text stays on-device.
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Child-first tone
Boundaries without fueling the fight—facts, logistics, one clear ask.
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Try before you commit
Free trial: 7 days or 20 messages, whichever comes first. Cancel anytime in App Store settings.
Discover Gentler Coparent
Hear the story behind the app—and how we’re supporting parents who need a clearer voice.
Free guides that rank for real problems
Practical articles—each one ends with a path into the app. Start with a tool, a high-conflict playbook, or your state.
- Message ShieldHard incoming texts → calm reply
- Tone GuardianCool your draft before send
- Decree answersAsk your order on-device
- High-conflictReply without pouring fuel
- TexasSPO weekends · Thursday nights
- FloridaTimesharing · storms · summer
- CaliforniaTraffic · school · move-away calm
- New YorkBorough pin-drops · late rules
- BIFFBrief, informative, firm
- Text templatesCopy-ready logistics scripts
- All 16 statesLocal language & handoff scripts
- Full libraryHolidays, expenses, enrollment…
Frequently asked questions
Straight answers for parents comparing tools and starting a free trial.
What is Gentler Coparent?
An iOS AI co-parenting coach: Message Shield, Tone Guardian, rewrites, decree-aware answers, and a private journal—without a shared inbox. See all features.
Is there a free trial?
Yes. 7 days or 20 messages, whichever comes first. Cancel anytime in App Store settings.
Is this like a court co-parenting messaging app?
No. Portals document shared messages. Gentler Coparent helps you rewrite and tone what you send (or scan incoming heat with Message Shield). Copy drafts into text, email, or the portal you already use.
Does it read my divorce decree?
If you add your order, on-device answers can cite it and open the PDF page. Decree text stays on your device. Not a substitute for reading the signed order or talking to counsel.
Does it give legal advice?
No. Suggestions are communication support only. For legal questions, talk to a qualified attorney.
Where do I download it?
On the App Store for iPhone.
How should I reply in a high-conflict text thread?
Keep it brief, factual, and child-first. Free guides: high-conflict messages, text templates, and by state (e.g. Texas SPO, Florida timesharing). In the app, use Message Shield or Tone Guardian.
Ready for calmer messages?
Download Gentler Coparent—Shield, Tone Guardian, rewrites, and decree help when you need them.
Free trial · 7 days or 20 messages
From conflict to cooperation—focus on what matters most: your children.
